People Pleasing: The Brutal Truth

Summary In this episode, I explore the concept of people pleasing, particularly among women, and its roots in childhood experiences. I discuss how people pleasing is a survival strategy that stems from a desire for approval and love, often leading to self-abandonment and emotional disconnection. I emphasise the importance of understanding these patterns to break free from them and reclaim one's sense of self-worth and autonomy. Takeaways People pleasing is a survival strategy. Understanding the roots of people pleasing is crucial for change. Conditional love in childhood can lead to people pleasing behaviors. People pleasing often results in self-abandonment. The need for approval can overshadow personal needs. Women often feel the pressure to please others, especially in familial roles. The nervous system can become conditioned to prioritize others' needs. People pleasing can manifest in various aspects of life, including work and relationships. Breaking the cycle requires recognising and addressing childhood wounds. Self-worth should not be dependent on external validation.